Here’s an important thing about me. This is something that a very small number of people in my life understand, but I know it has confused many other readers, friends, and even lovers. This is the most succinct way I can explain:
I hate most of what BDSMers do.
But I hate it because I think they’re doing it wrong, not because I think it’s wrong that they’re doing it.
Most people who hate BDSMers would hate me, too.
Oppressions can be like Russian nested dolls. The enemy of my enemy is not always my friend.